Thursday, July 30, 2009
Visitation Manipulation
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Weekend update. Now with more money. And welding.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Ten Things
Thursday, July 23, 2009
Standing on the edge.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Monday, July 20, 2009
Foodgasm
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Mystery Poo
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Blah Blah Blah
Friday, July 17, 2009
I suck.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Here I am
June 17, 2009
In which I discover that maybe Justice isn't really blind after all.
Jackass' appeal of the Judge's child support award was heard last Friday. I had absolutely no emotional investment in the situation, probably because, well, what was the worst that could happen? The NOT PAYING had already been happening for six months, and arrearages were in excess of 5k. I figured the Judge would just hand Jackass a greatly reduced child support figure to see if he'd pay THAT or maybe tell me to pay Jackass, or, I dunno, ask Jackass to meet for a beer later. Because, well, that's just how it had been going. The whole thing felt like a monumental waste of time.
June 09, 2009
Some cheap stuff that doesn't suck
Back in the day when I had a lot on my plate (and my wallet), I appreciated things differently. My priorities weren't screwed up, per se, I just prioritized to a different tune so to speak. I liked beautiful jewelry, got my nails and hair done all the time, drove a big shiny black truck that I kept immaculately clean, the kids and I wore adorable clothing. I collected gadgetry and had a bunch of free time to meet my Mom friends at Starbucks and poke through Barnes & Noble. I had Botox and went to the gym all the time.
June 07, 2009
Free At Last!
I lost my access to the blog for awhile thanks to Jackass hacking my email account (and that of a former client in the same week) so you won't likely hear much about the death threats via Twitter he sent me anonymously, or the visitation he bailed on, or the BS court dates or how he hasn't paid any child support this year beyond the $600 the state deducted from his unemployment. Sorry I haven't updated, but it's been more of the same around here.
April 02, 2009
Whew, glad THAT'S over!!
The past two days have been...crazy! (So crazy it took me two days to post this, so ignore the fact that by "today" I now mean "yesterday" etc....sorry)
Yesterday morning Autumn threw up twice, then Julia crashed into me, causing me to drench myself in coffee. Which necessitated a wardrobe change. Which pissed me off since I was going to a job fair and really wanted to wear my IA shirt. Damn.
Anyway. Worked the job fair, saw my old high school friend Mike, (Ogey!! LOL- I am sure he LOVED me calling him that in front of his colleagues, I need to self edit better!!) Then came home and worked a while. Ran a couple miles and did some weight work. Austin grilled steaks. I had locked myself out of my safe and really needed the kids' paperwork for my Food Stamp/ Medicaid re-up appointment today, so I spent an hour hunched over the stupid safe, and finally got the damn thing open- Yay, me!!!! (And also Boo Hiss, me- wtf was I thinking locking the combo in the stupid safe!? Duh! Although I'm sure it won't be the last idiotic mistake I ever make)
I had been pretty sure that I wouldn't be receiving any Food benefits today for this month since I had the appointment today, but when I woke up I called the number on the card and it had $600 on it! I decided I would be an idiot not to spend as much of that as possible before the appointment, since who knew if they'd re-evaluate and lower the benefit amount afterwards. So I went to Food Lion at 8am and dropped $479 in two trips through the store, mostly on non-perishables. Then I worked a while, hit Walmart on the fly for $120 more in non perishable groceries, and went to my appointment at Social Services.
Social Services is like hell's waiting room, after a riot in the Jerry Springer studio kills twelve. I hate going there. I hate being a client. I hate being dependent. Its demeaning and demoralizing and depressing. Sitting between an excessively tattooed drunk guy talking about his latest arrest, and some woman trying to rationalize her scuzzy boyfriend beating on her, makes me feel worthless by association. (Yeah, I know- they aren't worthless. Its just, rough.)
So, I left there all screwed up, sad, angry, hurt, depressed, with about five minutes to spare, and went to the bank. I stuck my keys in my pocket and stood up to go inside. I heard the keys fall out of my pocket & hit the floorboard a half second before the van door slammed....and locked. Right before the bus was due to drop my kids off at home. After I had my panic attack, I called my dad, who works at a car dealership a few miles up the road, and my BFF Eve, who graciously hopped in her van and zoomed to my house to wait for the kids.
As an aside, while I was waiting, I called my girlfriend Eliza, who drives the same stinkin' van I do (and whose van is also hell bent on destroying her life with various acts of defiance) and we tested out the "unlock your car via cell phone" thing. FAIL!!
My dad arrived, unlocked me, crisis averted. Eve and I had a conversation about how useless vaginas are in cases of mechanical emergency, large hairy spider sightings, and stuck jar lids. Whereas it appears that merely waving a penis in the direction of these situations fixes any of them immediately. Its patently unfair. I am SO gonna be a man in my next life. Or a lesbian.
So. Tomorrow is gonna be cool. Thanks to Carmen over at http://momtothescreamingmasses.typepad.com/ the kids and I have free passes to media day at Busch Gardens Williamsburg tomorrow! We are gonna spend the day riding rides and watching a movie and eating lunch with characters. I am so grateful to her for thinking of us and for passing along the opportunity, my kids are thrilled! I will post pictures- and a review of the new Sesame Street Fun Forest, this weekend.
Taking the van in for an oil change now. My life is so glamorous I can't hardly stand it!
Conversation between me and Very Cute Boy
Me: so, call me in the morning at 6, and make me go get on the treadmill... VCB: Nope Me: what? Why not? VCB: if I do that I won't get to talk to you, you'll be on the treadmill. Me: So you'd rather I laze in the bed and talk to you on your way to work every morning than have a cute ass? VCB: Yeah, pretty much. Me: well at least I know where your priorities are.....
March 28, 2009
Good things!
My girlfriend Eliza has been suffering through a divorce that's neck in neck with mine for sheer ugliness, but she's doing it with some major obstacles- like special needs children, her own major health problems, and no real support system in place. So when she started running last week, I was all, "wow! Yay you!!" Followed shortly by a forehead smack to myself- "seriously, self" my inner voice sighed disgustedly, "there's a pair of Nikes in your closet and a really Expensive Treadmill in your garage. You used to be a total gym rat and now you are trying to solve your depression and insomnia with drugs? What's wrong with you?"
So today I strapped on the ipod and trudged out to the garage. Very Cute Boy had to come over and clean the motor (rust from not being used) but pretty soon my ass was in gear. I also found some free weights and did a bunch of curls, dips, squats, presses, flys, and lunges. Ahhh...endorphins, how I have missed thee!!!!
Rewinding, yesterday was a mess. First I got a call from the kids' school that Jackass was trying to sign them out. (Wtf!? My only guess- to bring them to Court. But luckily my good bud the Principal told him to suck it.). Then there was the support hearing in which Jackass tried to have his support cut and arrearages eliminated. (Currently he owes the kids 7,500$) He also argued that since I "work from home" (not really true since I don't have internet here) I don't need to pay for childcare during the summer and he should not have to pay anything towards that. After about an hour of back and forth bullshit, the judge ruled that since I am a client of DCSE (the social services agency that collects child support from recalcitrant parents) he had no authority to rule on any reduction. Except he berated Jackass over the child care thing and ordered it factored into the support. So. Case continued til June. Jackass also filed a Les Pendens on the GBR house. This clever move had my attorney absolutely chuckling in delight. "That's gonna send Judge Harris into cardiac arrest!" Since Harris already ordered Jackass to return the house to me, the Les Pendens is going to be viewed by the Court as basically a big "Fuck you" from Jackass. Which, according to my attorney, can't do anything but help my case, and expedite my divorce.
Jackass texted me last night while I was having a lovely dinner with my dad and Very Cute Boy. I *could* have him arrested for it but with all the endorphins I am feeling generous. Plus I don't care to expend another second of my life dealing with his crap.
Mom is babysitting tonight. Very Cute Boy and I have some plans. I hope your evening is as good as mine's going to be ;)
Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
March 26, 2009
In which my post takes an unexpectedly snarky turn.
Suffering miserably from sinus congestion for the past few days, I gave up and took Benadryl and NyQuil at bedtime last night. And WHOO HOO!!!! SLEEP, people! 9 solid hours!!!!! I feel amazing. If I always felt this good I would be single mom extraordinaire. Interview Angel Rockstar. I would take over the world, I tell ya!
March 25, 2009
Just call me Ms. Pac Man
I have eaten everything in my path for the past few days. Considering that VCB has demanded I gain weight, and also considering the only person in my household that I currently outweigh is only 6 years old, this would seem not to be such a bad thing.
Except I am broke.
And can't replace my teeny tiny wardrobe with normal sized clothes.
How ridiculous is it to be stuck at 110 lbs because you can't afford to replace size two pants?
Yawn
Two hours sleep last night.
Today: Dr appt for my son, (camp physical, assuming I can find a way to pay for camp, shit). Then multiple errands for work, a stop @ the grocery store, and then home for, yes, more work. Also I ran the portable dishwasher last night without turning on the water, (that's me, always with the smart!) effectively rendering it a kiln. So I have to chisel my dirty dishes this evening. Which will be fun.
Ready, set, here I go.
Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
The agony and the ecstasy
I had a great weekend. My three little winners were off with Jackass, but that made for some Bad Fun opportunities. (Dear Tarjay, thank you for putting really, really messy and obnoxious kids' craft kits on 75% off Friday. I am sure Jackass thoroughly enjoyed making scented body glitter with the kids, Sincerely, me) Very Cute Boy and I had a Very Nice Dinner Friday night, and I must have slept a solid ten hours. Poor VCB willingly suffered through a few of those with his arm dead asleep underneath me and was all "Well, you were SLEEPING" when I asked him why on Earth he didn't shove me off....Awww.
Then Saturday I went to my Moms and we watched the Twilight movie and stuffed ourselves with Thin Mints. (Mmmm, Girl Scout cookies....) Sunday was the Irish Festival, which I had waffled over up to the last minute (owing to suspecting that Jackass might have been there) but it was totally worth risking to have a Guiness and hear the bagpiped version of Amazing Grace, my favorite song ever. Then last night VCB and the kids and I threw some chicken on the grill and opened a couple of beers and had a nice cookout.
MY weekend was great. The kids, not so much. Very Cute Boy calls the way my kids are fucked over by Jackass "Head Trauma" and I can't think of a more appropriate description. There was Head Trauma this weekend. The kids were told that *I* am the reason that Jackass' brother doesn't have custody of his kids. (Heh.) Among other, less bloggable, allegations. Argh.
Anyway- waiting on kids to get off bus and typing on my BlackBerry. The condition of my house defies description at the moment, suffice it to say that I have a lot of housework to do. And also the fourth Twilight book and a box of Girl Scout Cookies are staring me in the face. Not much of a contest is it? Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
March 20, 2009
On the off chance you see this...
Dear Jackass, First of all that's a VERY loose interpretation of the word "Dear", don't start thinkin' I'm all polite to you all of a sudden, because I still wish you would simply evaporate- okay? long as we're straight on that, I will get to the point.
You really devastated the kids tonight.
You see them once a week for two hours. Two lousy hours. You picked the time, even.
In the past month you have declined visitation twice and been a half hour late one other time.
Trying to bail on them tonight, telling me it wouldn't work because you had " a meeting", then spending your time with them on the phone to your girlfriend apologizing for ditching HER instead- not cool, dude. The kids are not stupid. Or deaf.
They came home pissed. Austin called you an asshole. Repeatedly.
Now, while WE both know that you are jerking the visitation around for the same reason you drag me into court every five minutes- because it screws with my life- what you apparently fail to comprehend is the effect it has on the kids. So pay attention. I will type s.l.o.w.l.y.
They feel like you don't care about them. At ALL. Don't link your MySpace page posts about all your partying to Austin's, then try to be all "I have a meeting" when you're supposed to be with them. Don't tell Candypants you are SO SORRY you're gonna be late in front of them, like the two hours you have them is such a huge inconvenience.
Why did you file divorce papers asking for full custody if two hours a week is beyond you? Do you KNOW how many actual hours are IN a week?? Or how much work it takes to fill those hours when you can't just take them out for fast food and give them back?
I am just appalled.
You suck at life. And fatherhood. You should come with a warning label.
That is all.
Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
March 18, 2009
More of the same
Jackass is still a jackass. Maybe not with a crapital "J" but only because he took drunky girlfriend out of town and therefore has not had visitation in three weeks so he hasn't been able to bug the piss out of me as usual. (Wow. What a run on sentence THAT was. My inner editor is appalled, but since I am reduced to typing with my thumbs on my Blackberry, I ain't fixin it. Sorry) I am Still. Not. Sleeping. Last night I woke up four times between 10 and 2:30am, then, boink- wide awake the rest of the night. Yep. THEN I went to the Starbux drive thru in an expensive and ultimately futile attempt at waking myself up, only to have the whole fucking cup leap out of the cupholder and explode onto my laptop bag before I got outta the parking lot. Sigh. Very Cute Boy and I seem to be edging back to good. Although three weeks without any quality time together (see above re: jackass' lack of visitation) has made things a lot more frustrating. Also torturous- Very Cute Boy has always had about two percent body fat, but the past two months he has put on fifteen pounds of pure muscle and shaved off his winter beard. He looks edible. Am loving my job. Its great. Apparently Jackass has also found a job. Don't know and don't care. Would be nice to get some child support though as I am still poor as the fleas on the church mouse. My grandma sent me some money twice last week. Love her- I bought gas and cat litter. And that is all my thumbs are up for. Thank you, and goodnight!! Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
March 18, 2009
More of the same
Jackass is still a jackass. Maybe not with a crapital "J" but only because he took drunky girlfriend out of town and therefore has not had visitation in three weeks so he hasn't been able to bug the piss out of me as usual. (Wow. What a run on sentence THAT was. My inner editor is appalled, but since I am reduced to typing with my thumbs on my Blackberry, I ain't fixin it. Sorry) I am Still. Not. Sleeping. Last night I woke up four times between 10 and 2:30am, then, boink- wide awake the rest of the night. Yep. THEN I went to the Starbux drive thru in an expensive and ultimately futile attempt at waking myself up, only to have the whole fucking cup leap out of the cupholder and explode onto my laptop bag before I got outta the parking lot. Sigh. Very Cute Boy and I seem to be edging back to good. Although three weeks without any quality time together (see above re: jackass' lack of visitation) has made things a lot more frustrating. Also torturous- Very Cute Boy has always had about two percent body fat, but the past two months he has put on fifteen pounds of pure muscle and shaved off his winter beard. He looks edible. Am loving my job. Its great. Apparently Jackass has also found a job. Don't know and don't care. Would be nice to get some child support though as I am still poor as the fleas on the church mouse. My grandma sent me some money twice last week. Love her- I bought gas and cat litter. And that is all my thumbs are up for. Thank you, and goodnight!! Sent from my Verizon Wireless BlackBerry
February 19, 2009
Here we go again
Things are looking, well, if not up, then at least not over my shoulder to see who might be shooting at me. For now.
February 13, 2009
Happy Valentine's Day
Posting has been tough since I lost my internet access at home. I am camped at Barnes & Noble this morning trying to get some work done today and feeling sorta like stabbing the annoying, arrogant, I'm-wayyy-too-educmacated-for-this-job barrista in the eye with the sharpened #2 pencil I am tapping.
January 31, 2009
Displeasurement
The past few weeks have been stressful. Jackass told the kids he had a "Meeting" last Thursday and skipped visitation. Turns out he slipped up and told them all about the movie he went to see instead of being with his kids for the TWO HOURS A WEEK he is allowed to see them. Does he think they don't notice that shit?? Then they went for their every-other-weekend and I got pitiful emails from the kids asking to come home, over and over.
January 21, 2009
Duh....
Daughter: "My underwear's rubbing me!" (yanks at it)
January 20, 2009
In which I am NOT nominated for Mom of the Year. Again.
My kids are 12, 9 and 6. To say that the rather spectacular dissolution of our family unit has affected them would obviously be akin to saying that the economy is less than stable. I have done my best, to be sure, but this is the kind of situation that no amount of stable routine or family togetherness can ever turn into "normal" for a kid.
January 18, 2009
Still waiting
Am I the only one who has lived a good portion of their life feeling like, any day now, I will get it right and, voila'- the life I was meant to have, will start to happen?
January 16, 2009
They both start with "D"
I had a pretty productive day all things considered. Casa del Chaos really, really needed some attention this morning- I FINALLY finished packing up the Christmas decor (no comment) and folded Mt. Laundry, plus took out a bunch of trash, vacuumed, and ran the dishwasher twice. Then I worked awhile and ran some errands, including a trip to the grocery store.